A letter to the lightworkers
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 My beautiful sisters and brothers,

If you are a light worker, you are here to anchor light. What beautiful mission.

You don't need to be a coach.
You don't need a big platform.
You don't need to let go of your full time job that helps you pay your bills. 
You don't need qualifications or that certification or more training or permission.

You need nothing. Absolutely nothing to be the gift that you are.

If you think you do, here is a truth that may be hard to hear but I am going to share it anyway because I am a truth teller:

If you need to be "seen" by the world as a lightworker than you are stuck in a limiting narrative created by a precious, but dis-empowering ego that is attached to being PERCEIVED as a something in order to feel good about yourself.

 

Business coaches make boat loads of money off vulnerable people who buy the promise of starting a business as a lightworker
but are no where near being a vibrational match for the work they want to offer.

You don't need the business to make the contribution.
You can do your sacred light work anywhere, anytime in any moment.
You are here to ANCHOR light.
You don't need a following or a FB fan page to do that.

Start by BLESSING PEOPLE.

Bless them with light every moment you get.
Bless them in traffic and at the store and on-line and everywhere.
Bless the hearts of those hurting the most.
Bless nature.
Bless water.
Bless your home. 
Bless your food.

You ~ BEING ~ the light, helps to anchor the light and that contribution is far more impactful than any awesome virtual product, retreat or really cool client offering that you can create. The essence of who you are IS your gift.

Can you breathe in this truth?

What might it feel like to give yourself permission to be EXACTLY where you are right now?

Are you willing to have the courage to stop chasing an identity and instead commit to BE the inspiration that the deepest part of you is asking you to be?

From THAT place of alignment, the irony is this -- everything unfolds.

I know because I have lived it.

I struggled for years. I spent way too much money on coaches. I beat myself up on the daily for believing I was failing in my mission.
I fought with life. I wanted things to be a certain way when they weren't.
I felt sad and lost and pissed and powerless.
I was filled with fear that my life was passing me by.

I know what ALL of that feels like.

I'm posting this because I care about every single person that is in that same struggle right now and my heart goes out to you in such a sincere way.

May I reflect this -- You are a being of light no matter what you are "doing."

Your gift is your BEING.

I wish someone would have told me I could stop the relentless pursuit of BECOMING and business building and just BE the light I wanted to awaken in others.

And in that being-ness all would bloom and birth and become what it was meant to in time.

So I offer that to you today.

I honor you as the light worker you are. 
I see you.
I bless you.

No matter what you do or have done or how well-known you are. You matter.

My greatest prayer for you today is that you begin to see this power in yourself and don't, for a moment longer, allow the circumstances of life to keep you from believing in the power and impact that you can have on humanity.

RIGHT NOW.

With sincere love,

Marin

Ali Wright
The Six Core Human Needs

According to Tony Robbins, human beings have six core human needs.  They are:

✦  The need to feel certain  

✦  The need to have variety in life  

✦  The need to be loved and to belong and to feel connected

✦  The need for significance  

✦  The need for growth  

✦  The need for contribution  

When a person is miserable, angry, off balance or depressed, often it is because one or several of these fundamental human needs are not being met.  

Look at the list.  Which of these needs is not being met in your own life?  

The first four needs are considered base needs.  The last two needs, growth and contribution, are what are considered needs for the soul.  People who are at a certain level of evolution will have a greater intensity for these two needs.

For example, over the past ten years, as we have awakened as a collective consciousness in a more accelerated way, countless women are beginning to outgrow relationships, jobs and friendships that no longer allow them to grow.   Growth has become essential in ways that it was not a few generations ago.  Same for the need to contribute.  The popular obsession with the question "what is my purpose?", is directly linked to the soul's growing need to make a contribution.

Everything that you desire to have, be or do has it's root in one of these six core needs.  

These needs are essential to know for several reasons.  Most importantly, when needs go unacknowledged they wreak havoc in our lives.  Needs can't always be met but they can be acknowledged.  For example, you may not be able to meet the need for certainty in your life if you are going through a divorce but to recognize the need is actually enough.  When you recognize the importance of your fundamental needs, the part of you that is vying to get your attention or having an inner tantrum because those needs are not being met, can relax.  That part will feel seen, heard and validated and that is all that is necessary.

As women, we are hard-wired to track the needs of everyone else in our lives.  We are experts at knowing what our children and husbands and pets and even our plants need!  But when it comes to ourselves, often, we overlook.   

One of the most powerful practices a woman can begin to do is to develop is the habit of asking herself, "what do I need?"  Again, your needs may not be able to be met but to name them is enough.  So many women identity with the need for self care.  Believe it or not, self care is most likely a need for connection with SELF.  It's not about getting the actual massage or the pedicure. Self care is often a plea for love, connection and the need to belong to oneself.  Knowing that, helps to enrich your self care time.  I can't tell you how many clients I have that spend the $100 + dollars to get the massage only to be left with the same void inside.  The massage doesn't fill the need for self care.  The acknowledgement of self is what fills the need for self care!

The other trap we fall into is that of projecting our needs onto others.

We look to our partners to meet our need to feel loved.  We look to money to meet our need to feel certain.  We look to success or our children's successes to meet our own needs to feel significant.  So the second question then would be, "How can I meet [this need] for myself?"

What I love about the six human needs is that we all have them.  We are all the same inside.  For as tough or aloof or intimidating as someone may be, they still have the same fundamental needs that you do.  Knowing these core needs allows you to see people and yourself through the eyes of compassion.  Bad behavior is often a desperate cry for having one of these needs met.  

Be tender.  Be curious.  Be open.   Be aware of these needs.  You'll be amazed at how they help you to understand yourself and others.  

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Ali Wright